ECHOES & REFLECTIONS

“As a person of Jewish decent from Budapest (one-quarter of my ancestry), I found it most personally meaningful, and cathartic, to move deeper into my family’s history, including traumas, through a wide variety of mutually-reinforcing and diverse events and experiences. The day-long Healing Dialogue session, the walk (and accompanying talks, including those among the participants), the Healing History (PoP) workshop, my own visits to Budapest museums and sites relating to this history as well as my own conversations with relatives who remain in Budapest all contributed to my own internal healing, and healing my relationships to: Hungary/the Hungarians; my Jewish roots including The Holocaust; and, the pan-European (historical) traumas commonly known as World War I and World War II.As a person of Jewish decent from Budapest (one-quarter of my ancestry), I found it most personally meaningful, and cathartic, to move deeper into my family’s history, including traumas, through a wide variety of mutually-reinforcing and diverse events and experiences. The day-long Healing Dialogue session, the walk (and accompanying talks, including those among the participants), the Healing History (PoP) workshop, my own visits to Budapest museums and sites relating to this history as well as my own conversations with relatives who remain in Budapest all contributed to my own internal healing, and healing my relationships to: Hungary/the Hungarians; my Jewish roots including The Holocaust; and, the pan-European (historical) traumas commonly known as World War I and World War II……

HD Walk
I thought that the sites on the walk were most meaningfully chosen, and my healing was served by encountering sites related to both the international war as well as the Communist era in Hungary. The building which had served as a Hungarian Nazi party office and then as a Hungarian Communist Party office (if I remember correctly) was very dark (emotionally) for me and also very cathartic. This was the most difficult site to experience for me and also the most healing for me. Its ruined state suggested the ruined lives; the building’s historical architecture (rather than something modern and Western) also very strongly brought to life the period of such repression (even though it probably dates from before the Nazi and Communist eras)….

Facilitation
The facilitators accomplished as much as could be accomplished in the duration of the workshops. I think that to do deeper healing more workshop time would be required–unless the participants were better prepared. With groups such as we had–being at different stages of healing from different traumas, and with differing levels of emotional awareness–it is not possible to go any faster during a workshop. This is deep, dark, delicate and difficult work…some historical traumas were hidden by one’s family-of-origin, with the best of intent, but the actual consequence of more unconsciousness and quite possibly more pain, not less….

Organizing
All were excellent. Thank you so very much!

Key times needing healing
Unfortunately, I’m not aware of any other groups that would be interested, yet this is a very good question to ask. Perhaps this is shaped by my family’s history, but I think the following periods would be the foci for this work: World War I; The Great Depression; World War II and The Holocaust; and, the Communist Era–unless Hungarian organizers also think that the traumas of the post-Communist era are now ready for processing too (?). The sharing of family stories in any written or digital form is a delicate exercise since different (surviving) family members may understand it differently, or still be deep in denial about major trauma(s)–verbal sharing within the confidentiality of the workshop is much easier.

Brad Jarvis, Victoria, BC, Canada


2016

” I am deeply grateful for my Budapest experiences and  inspiring efforts that you have and continue to invest in the collective healing efforts there…and of course, the many lovely souls that I spent some time  with…in the workshop and other activities…and in your  warm and welcoming home. And yes, let us continue, hopefully in September, if not before…Much Love, ” Anngwyn St Just

“”One of many lessons I learned on this trip is that if I simply trust your creative energy and don’t try to do anything, something wonderful emerges. That was true about the opera and sundry other matters, and it was true tonight. This journey has been a deep life event for me. I bow to you with respect and thank you, and Budapest, and Hungary, from my heart. My feeling body has been glowing with satisfaction from the moment I stepped into this magical space, and you have been my guide from start to finish. This world has been nourishing to me on many more levels than I can express.
The next time I greet you it will be as an old friend. Thank You!”
“Dear Agota,
I read your article about our experiences together and loved it—a lovely piece about a wonderful journey. And it’s great to have a record of those magical places. Ever since I got home I’ve been meaning to tell you a dream that I had a few days after we said goodbye:
A lecturer or pundit of some sort is giving a talk about Hungary. He says, “Everything in Hungary, regardless of how it may seem, is really about the Hungarian National Question. For example: should a man and his wife be arguing, whatever the topic of the argument may appear to be, they are really arguing about the Hungarian National Question. Or, if there is a conflict between a parent and child, whatever the conflict might seem to be about, the issue is really the Hungarian National Question. In fact, scratch the surface of anything in Hungary at all, and you will find the Hungarian National Question immediately underneath”.
I’ve never had any dream like that before. I found the speaker witty and pleasant to listen to and most persuasive. Whatever else it was, the dream was a memento of our trip and steeped in all the things we learned from you.” Daniel Gackle, Kanada

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